QUESTION:
Sister, help me help me. I am a woman who has the problem that every time I have sex I can’t feel anything at all. It hurts even when I watch sex videos but it doesn’t feel good. I have been in love with many different people because I say I am trying my luck but you can say I am playing. For better it continues. There is only one person who did something that kept me awake all night because of the pleasure, a boy who is my child’s friend and we used to steal from each other because I can see that he has one eye on me. But it was only once because after all, my boy must not know this. I even entertain myself by thinking about this boy even when I’m alone. This thing bothers me because no matter how much I love someone, I can’t feel them at all in bed. Help me MaGumede.
Answer:
Hello sister. No, you don’t have a problem, the problem is that you are used to helping yourself. Sex experts say that getting used to doing it has a negative effect on your feelings and that you can no longer feel your partner. That is why they warn us not to get used to helping ourselves. Relax and if you are with your man, make sure that you help him to find the most pleasant place for you because you know that you are happy when you are touched. Avoid sitting alone because that’s what makes you think about the depth of the room. As for your boyfriend’s friend, don’t try to get close to him because that thing can make you and your boyfriend hate each other very badly. Find your peers and be patient, you will see it happen.
QUESTION:
Ma Gumede, I am told by the father from next door. The sad thing is that this father lives with his family which is his wife and children. We are close neighbors in such a way that you see me every time I go out or come home. Lately he has a habit of coming to my house when his wife is not there. I have tried to warn him about this but he doesn’t listen, he says he wants me. Even when he is sitting with his wife, when I greet them, he just winks at me, I look at him as if he didn’t see me. I’m thinking of just getting up the courage to propose to his wife because if he gets this thing, it will be like we are in love and it makes me happy. Help me, what should I do?
The answer
Hello my sister. You know that father will put you down hard because now you will be afraid to go out so that he won’t see you, as if you did something and you didn’t do anything. Please show this father that you are not playing with him, if you scold him don’t laugh and show that you don’t want what he is doing. If he enters you forcefully, just throw him cold water or slap him and then cry loudly and scream. He will then explain to his wife what he was getting from your house? It will help you to put him on the path before his wife hears about this because it will not go down well with her. It will be as if you love each other, maybe even hating you to the core. Even getting rich from his wife will not help because he can deny standing alone, accusing you that you are the one who will disturb his family. It is not easy for someone’s wife to believe you, let alone her husband.